Category Archive: Divorce-related-navelgazing

And now for something entirely different

Life is so weird, right? 3 months ago I was on track for a promotion to Director of Operations at the startup grocery store I’ve been working at for 2 years. I was working over 50 hours a week and missed my kids like crazy. There wasn’t enough time in a day to get everything done. […]

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The F Word, it’s not what you think.

I wrote a post about apologies a while back and now I think it’s only fitting to write a post about forgiveness. When people apologize, why do we say “It’s ok” instead of “I forgive you.”  Why is it so much harder to forgive people than it is to apologize? Apologizing says “I fucked up and […]

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The Week of the Sisterhood and a small rabbit-hole of regret

Last week was so weird.  If I were the astrology type, I would have blamed the planetary alignment ( there WAS an eclipse). If I was the religious type, I would have felt some divine intervention. I’m neither of those things, so all I can say is “That was the strangest and most unpredictable series […]

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Cheers to the divorced moms who were really always single

I might have commented on this if I had only heard it once, but honestly, I’ve heard it like three times in the past month: “Oh, things must be so hard since the divorce” “It seems like you’re adjusting OK to being a single mom” “Is it hard, being alone now?” And let me just […]

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Learning to love yourself

It seems like such a sissy topic. A few years ago, I would have wondered “What the hell is that all about?” That sounds like the mumbo jumbo of someone who also might need to “find themselves” As if anyone could seriously be lost. Or the self-absorbed meanderings of a person who claims to “not […]

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Looking forward to looking back less often (Also, divorce doesn’t HAVE to be ugly)

I’m sure you have noticed that my return-to-blogging has been uncharacteristically introspective.  I’m OK with that.  People who know me and love me know that sometimes I don’t even know what I’m thinking ’til I write it down. Somehow having an organized and mostly-edited stream of thoughts feels good.  Sure, things change. But it’s all […]

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I lit my kids’ toys on fire

It’s true. In 2005, I did this. I was severely depressed and exhausted and sick. I wasn’t getting help at home and my husband was working 7 days a week, up to 16 hours a day at the restaurant. I was so frustrated that my kids weren’t putting their toys away that I bagged everything […]

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Because it’s important to help the people in your life

I often say I am the luckiest girl in the world.  What other than luck could explain the fact that I have six daughters?  How lucky is that? I mean, anyone can have six kids, the making and birthing of children really isn’t rocket science but to repeatedly bring forth daughters? I must be the […]

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The fine line between codependency and.. um… whatever is on the other side

EDITED a couple years later to clarify- the codependency thing is only related to the addiction, NOT the narcissism.  Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a big damned deal and it’s important to clarify that if you’re in a narcissistic relationship, you’re not codependent, abuse is abuse, dependency is dependency.  A victim of narcissistic abuse isn’t […]

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Bringing Out the Best in Someone

Are you like me?  Do you know you’re capable of greatness? Sometimes I look to the people around me for inspiration and motivation. I can always see it in my kids.  I strive to be a force in their lives that helps them to be great, instead of making it impossible for them. My 20 […]

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